Getting down to business - the Guest List.

For the past couple of weeks, I have wanted nothing more than to crawl into a hidden cave in the cliffs of Narnia and hide from wedding planning. I've mostly comforted myself with writing and listening to Disney songs on repeat, but it has done little to alleviate my new-found dislike for the details of weddings. Anyway, stepping away from my bitterness and back to the point of this post: THE GUEST LIST.

Let's just get to the meat of it. You don't have to invite everyone you've ever met. Your eighth cousin four times removed most likely isn't going to be hurt not to get an invitation, unless for some reason you are close to your eighth cousin four times removed. But that's the key thing here: invite the people you actually are close to and that you genuinely want to have at your wedding. Sure, there are some people you may be obligated to invite, such as your grandmother that once kicked your dog or your creepy uncle because your mom insisted upon it. I stress, though, that the only people you are at all obligated to invite are family members SOMETIMES.

The point of a wedding is not to have a huge party with a lot of people you don't really know or care about. The point of a wedding is to - get this - marry the person you're in love with. You don't need to invite that guy that was always in your group of friends at school but you never really talked to that much. In reality, having a smaller, more intimate wedding will be far more meaningful in the grand scheme of things. Having your closest friends and relatives for a night of happiness and cocktails is a wonderful things. Maybe later you can have a big party for your one year anniversary with the people that may not have made the original wedding list.

I've found that a lot of people are added to wedding guest lists because the bride and groom want all of the stuff off of their registry, the bride and/or groom are too sentimental, or because they just feel like they HAVE to. None of these are a good reason to have 300+ people "celebrating" your special day (taking advantage of the open bar). Chances are, you are not best friends with three hundred people. PLEASE DO NOT INVITE EVERYONE YOU'VE EVER MET. MOST OF THEM PROBABLY DON'T WANT TO BE THERE. SAVE MONEY ON CATERING AND KEEP IT TO THE PEOPLE YOU CARE ABOUT MOST.

Yep. These blogs are slowly deteriorating, along with my mind. Just snapping in half. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for my brother and his fiancee. There have been many fun times. But even they'll admit that there is SO MUCH planning that they didn't expect, so many small details that need to be attended to, and it definitely does get tedious, irritating, and boring. I'm just saying to all of you planning your weddings, keep a bottle of wine near by.